MY BESTIE

1556383_10203267484982007_92564672887185884_oAbove all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.” – 1 Peter 4:8

Thank You, Father, that your word is a (constant) lamp to my feet and a light to my path.  As your word has inspired me on the type of wife I desire to be for my husband.

The man I have lived, loved, and laughed with for almost 23 years.

I will be the first to tell anyone, EVERYONE, in fact, that marriage is not easy. But, what has been easy is loving him. He and I have been together through the good and the bad, and it is only by and through the grace of God that we are still together today.

Many people, newly married couples, or soon-to-be married couples are under the misconception that you are supposed to be in an eternal state of euphoria. This could not be furthest from the truth.

You see, no matter how in love you are on the day of your nuptials, and throughout that honeymoon stage, you will come to a lull in your relationship. It is inevitable…but, that is not a sign that your worst days are ahead. As with any relationship, there will be ups and downs. It’s called life. We, eventually, get in to a routine, and become complacent with one another. There will always be one person in that relationship who will say, “We never do anything anymore!” Even if they just went to a movie the other week. They will find something. Yes, I do believe it takes work in any relationship. But, we must govern our tongues in how we say things so that it doesn’t come across as an attack. What that person may, actually, be saying is that, “I miss the closeness we used to share.” We have to find better ways to communicate with each other in a loving manner.

We are sooner to make up with a best friend, rather than seeing past the faults of our mates. We seem to draw a line in the sand of what we will and will not accept rather than choosing to love at all costs and at all times.

When we’re single, we are looking for that perfect somebody, but what we really need to do is take a long hard look in the mirror and ask, “ARE YOU THE PERSON I WANT TO SPEND THE REST OF MY LIFE WITH?”

Oddly enough, the response may be a resounding “NO!”. So, where do you go from there? Let’s put a tag on this before answering the question.

Many of us, often, get married thinking, “Oh, they’re a little flawed, but nothing I can’t fix!”

No, it is not our job to fix anyone. What if you’re mate was also wondering ways in which they could fix you. No, that could never be, because you are perfect just the way you are, right? Wrong!!!

We are all flawed creatures, but…going back to my tag…if we work on loving ourselves perfectly as the person God created in His image, and, as well, loving our mates, in spite of their imperfections as the person God created in His image. We can live a long glorious life together.

You know, this just might be a novel idea that can workout for our good, because He loves us inspite of us. So, as you take that walk down your Pathway to Spiritual Rebirth, please remember that it all starts with loving God, first and foremost.

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About Candace Frazer

Candace Frazer is a Certified Personal Life Coach and a Motivational Speaker. She is presently attending the Ohio Christian University, pursuing a second Master's degree in Ministry with a concentration in Pastoral Care and Counselling. She graduated from the College of New Rochelle, New Rochelle, NY, with a Dual Master's Degree in Special/General Education, and a Minor in Gifted Education. She taught Adult Education at Hostos Community College, Bronx, NY. Presently, she is an Associate Minister at Pleasant Hill Church in Roswell, GA, flourishing in the Word of GOD and Surrendering to His will for her life.

4 thoughts on “MY BESTIE

  1. I love the positive messaging on this site! Keep it up and thank you, I am sharing on my Facebook! Such a great resource to come here and be reminded of what Father gave us.

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