Wisdom Wednesday

Are you a friend?

We all want to be a friend or to have friends; but what are we doing to get it.

Proverbs 18:24(NLT) “There are “friends” who destroy each other, but a real friend sticks closer than a brother.

I personally had to look at this question myself; and realized that I had more cyber and associates than friends. We as people use this word “FRIEND(s)” so loosely and never take into consideration who’s our true friend(s).

Have you ever felt down and reached out to someone you thought were your friend, but they ended up not being there for you; that’s a heart sinking feeling. I know you can think of some situations of your own. This can cause a trust issue. We must pray that God show us forgiveness and show us how to be a friend.

What we must do is look within ourselves and sees how we can be a friend and surround ourselves with people that we want to be friends with. Proverbs 27:17(NLT) “ As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.”

In their book on friendship, Liz Spencer and Ray Pahl identified 8 different types (based on their research).


Associates were people who only shared a common activity, like a hobby or a sport. Useful contacts were people who shared information and advice, typically related to work or advancing ones career.Favor friends were people who helped each other out in a functional manner, but not in an emotional manner. Fun friends were people who socialized together, but only for fun. They didn’t provide each other with a deep level of emotional support. Helpmates were a combination of favor friends and fun friends. They socialized together and helped each other out in a functional manner. Comforters were like helpmates, but they also provided emotional support. Confidants disclosed personal information to each other, enjoyed each other’s company, but weren’t always in a position to offer practical help, for example if they lived far away. Soulmates displayed all of the elements.http://www.thinkoutsidein.com/blog/2010/04/eight-types-of-friendship/

While on this Pathway to Spiritual Rebirth let’s re-evaluate our friends and see if we’re being a friend.

Alinda Miller



About Alinda M.

Alinda Miller is a Minister and member of Triumph Church under the direction of Pastor Solomon Kinloch, Jr. Alinda always knew there was a calling on her life and began walking toward that calling at a very young age. She love‘s serving and working in the church. She has served God and the body of Christ in several leadership capacities. She has worked in education, real estate, and currently in human resources. She holds a Bachelor’s Degree from Central State University and a Master’s Degree from Marygrove College. She currently attends Geraldine Marvell Miller Wright Institute for Women in Ministry. She prides herself in using the gifts that were given to her and using them to bless others. With the journey that she’s on, she’s looking forward to seeing what God has in store for her. Alinda is the mother to one son.

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