Love is Something You Do On Purpose

“Girrrrrlllll, he is just so fine!!!”  or “I love me some him!! or “Yo, man, she is soooo fly!! 

Remember when the love was fresh and new…we just couldn’t wait to see them.  “You hang up, no, you hang up…!!”  Then the years start to slowly pass by and there are times when you barely acknowledge one another. Things become so routine that you hardly even notice that he is wearing a new scent or she has lost some weight. People are quick to say that they have nothing in common, but it was that commonality which brought you together. What most couples neglect to realize is that love is something you do on purpose. Just like it takes work to maintain a job, as we have to undergo yearly evaluations. We need to make it a point to always remind each other and ourselves, why that person, initially, put that spark in our eyes. Why there seemed to be such an urgency to get to that person just to be in their presence. How often do you hear people say they “love” somebody?  “Love” is probably the most overused word in our vocabulary. Let’s not just say “I love you” but say why you love. If she is Maya Angelou’s Phenomenal Woman, then tell her that it’s “In the arch of her back, The sun of her smile, The ride of her breasts, The grace of her style…” How much more do you think you could get from that woman, YOUR WOMAN, if you said those words to her?

Hey Ladies, what if you said, “What I love about you is, “The sparkle in your eye. The warmth of your skin. Your breath on my neck, that shakes me within…” (unknown poet). This would surely bring him home to the love waiting for him. 

People, Love is something you do on purpose!! This is not limited to the love of a man and woman, but for those who at times are just so unlovable. The dreaded checkout girl, who always has a stink attitude. She needs love, too. What we don’t know is that her child is sick, but she is forced to work for low wages to cover the expenses. Show her some love, ask her how her day is going. The old man living next door to you who complains about everything. What we don’t realize is that the only reason he complains is because he has no one else to talk to. His kids are too busy to call him. Let’s take the time to remove our egos and Love on purpose.

“And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.” 1 Corinthians 13:13

Let’s walk the Pathway to Spiritual Rebirth, together. 


About Candace Frazer

Candace Frazer is a Certified Personal Life Coach and a Motivational Speaker. She is presently attending the Ohio Christian University, pursuing a second Master's degree in Ministry with a concentration in Pastoral Care and Counselling. She graduated from the College of New Rochelle, New Rochelle, NY, with a Dual Master's Degree in Special/General Education, and a Minor in Gifted Education. She taught Adult Education at Hostos Community College, Bronx, NY. Presently, she is an Associate Minister at Pleasant Hill Church in Roswell, GA, flourishing in the Word of GOD and Surrendering to His will for her life.

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